I don't want to go to the nest, I WANT to be with you

Powerful sentence for what it expresses:

a structuring I and an independent THINKING taking shape, free to express itself vigorously since it is certain of an unconditional and firm EMOTIONAL CONNECTION.

Phrase that expresses a PHASE that can usually take place around age 3/4, give or take a month( different thing is for those who never went to daycare willingly).

What to do when the morning starts with what can degenerate into a real crisis that is a source of stress for the whole family?

BREATHE and JOY

Much easier said than done, steps breathe but rejoice you will say....

Rejoice!!!! You have built a FUNDAMENTAL bond for the future parent-child relationship and he/she is telling you so! This does not take away from remaining steadfast by helping the little one to process the detachment.

In concrete there can be small strategies such as the ones in the picture:

“ I'll draw you a heart on your hand and dad one on the other and you draw it to us.”

“ And then Mom?”

“ And then when we miss each other, you at daycare and us at work, we look at it and color it too , so tonight you show us what colors you chose.”

“ Siiiiiiiii, I like iteeee”

Crying gives way to smiling, and tightly clenched hearts breathe again.

It is a strategy, it does not necessarily work always and for all children, to each his own but along with this there are other shrewdnesses that should be adopted.

I'll be waiting for you if you feel you need a little support at times similar to this.©️